Yesterday someone told me that you don’t get to choose how you react to the things that happen to you…I don’t agree.
Maybe when you are a child perhaps not, but I have always been told that nothing good comes easily, and the making of a good person is not how they handle the good times but how they react to the bad…
When I was 8 I came out of a dressage test in tears because my pony just stopped and tried to eat a tree at the side and mum said that if I ever did that again she would sell all the horses and I would have to stop riding.
I learnt early on that no amount of preparation can prepare you for everything and at some point you need to learn to just go with it.
It’s true that some things you can’t prevent…I don’t think there was much that could have been done to prevent the downward spiral I went into after my dad’s suicide, but I still wish I knew then what I know now. That everyone you meet in life has there own stuff do deal with, and more often than not nothing you did, or could have done, would have changed it…
Having a goal changed my life, but of course not everyday will go how you want it to, however there is always something you can take out of it.
People will tell you that everything happens for a reason, I think that is crap. I think everything happens, period, and it’s how you cope with it, and ultimately learn from it that defines who you are, who you become, and who stays with you.
Since just making the decision to get to WEG I have been pushing myself harder, and while there are many more good rides because I’m more focused, every now and then I have a really bad ride, that reminds me of how far I’ve come, and also that I always need to be ready to deal with new challenges.
Nothing just happens, nothing is given to you, and nothing good comes easily!
You have to work at it…everyday.
I talk often of my grandparents, but their marriage was one that I think is unfortunately rather rare, and my grandfather used to say that love was something you did, everyday. It wasn’t easy, but it was worth it.
Today I finished the lesson disappointed in myself, and I really hate that feeling.
Knowing that you could have done better, or reacted better, but you didn’t…
That feeling lasted two minutes, because after that you have to move on. I have had people writing to me asking about something they did on the horse two weeks ago, and my reply is, why are you still worried about that?…move on!
I read a post today about how miserable winter is, and like many things in life there is good in everything, but for the last two years I actually started to love winter…
When I was depressed I would get cold, but a cold that I couldn’t warm up from. Now I feel warm, even when it’s cold, it sounds strange but it’s like being happy just makes you naturally warmer 😉
I rode in the rain today, and it was so much fun! Bob Marley used to say “some people feel the rain, others just get wet!”
I’ve learnt in life that it’s always going to rain at some point…worrying about when it will rain, crying because it’s raining, or thinking about the time it rained…well, you are just wasting that time you could be spending in the sun!! 🙂